She is really good at putting elastics in her super short hair. I just think about how excited she will be when it grows long enough for real pony tails!
My is doing so well with us. She is brave and courageous. She has leaned into her new life.
The transition has been going as expected. Far from all sunshine and rainbows but normal, natural and real.
The first 2 days or so she was happy all the time, smiling and being a “perfect” child. No crying, no yelling, no screaming and she never used the word “no”. She smiled and charmed her way through these days. During this time, on a subconscious level, I suspect she was making S sure that we would like her so we would take care of her. We spent this time showing her that we would. This was not a time of boundaries. We met her where she was and looked for opportunities to keep her in a peaceful frame of mind to help with her stress level.
After a few days, once she we would take care of her, we saw some cracks in her veneer. She would cry a little bit, demand a toy for just a moment, push her own agenda a little bit regarding what she wanted to do rather than just follow along. At this time...I saw a 3 yr old emerging....
During this time, we stayed the course...building and blending relationships. It is more complex than I thought but also very organic. The sister relationship is so fun to watch. My loves Natalie 100%. Like every little sister, she wants to be with her, do what ever she is doing, and entice her to play. The girls sleep together, other than the odd complaint about being kicked by a 3 yr old, all is well. Sleep times are hard for My. She doesn’t want to nap or go to bed at night. Lots of heart breaking tears.
We will get there with a lot of patience and love.
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